(illustrations from children's books the snowy day and deer in the snow)
max and i have been aching for a bit of snow around here...something to stick to the grass and buoy plastic sleds. in the meantime though, we're enjoying cold walks outside with plans to strewn the house with paper snowflakes...keeping woolens close...and reading dreamy books of whitest white winters. we're wintery ohio folk through and through.
have a lovely lovely weekend, friends!
p.s. i'm so glad you guys like the new layout! it still needs tweaked here and there, but it feels so good to start the year off with something new and fresh. i've also decided to bite the bullet already and start accepting sponsors! it's something i've been meaning to do for years but have been too afraid. i'm so excited to start working with other artists and small businesses...knowing that taking this step will help justify the time i spend here...and insure that i will be able to continue to in the coming years! thank you all much and much for making that possible!
if you're interested in partnering up visit my sponsor page here...
matt is taking me out tonight on our first real date since phoebe was born. nursing and being the worst at pumping has pretty much kept us home these past 4 months...but tonight! tonight we throw caution to the wind and sneak out once she's asleep and grandma comes to sit. (max is away adventuring with his dad this weekend)
we have a curfew of midnight (when she's been waking up to eat again) and i have my fingers crossed that i don't fall asleep on matt by 9 o'clock. regardless, this calls for some heels and a little lipstick.
happy happy weekend, friends!
i've spent some time answering a few of your questions...thank you so much for all of them!
i'll get to the other's next week...
Q&A after the jump
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Section 1- Mothering
What is your schedule like these days with the baby and max?- Each day is a mixed bag...my main objective is to stay super flexible! Bee is starting to form a small routine with her eating and napping but just when i think i've got it figured out she'll switch it up on me. That said, Max is up by 8 each morning for school and sis and i drop him off at 8:30. Right now Bee is eating every 2 hours and taking 1-2 long naps during the late morning and afternoon (if i'm lucky). I try to work while she's napping but most days you'll see me frantically pushing a cart around Target trying to get her to sleep. haha. Max is home by 3 and off playing with the neighbor boy most days. Bedtime is 9 and sis isn't too far behind him. She used to sleep through the night for me but is now waking up every 3 hours (midnight/3/5-6/7...ugh).
How do you juggle being a mama and working from home...painting, blogging?- Being a mama of course comes first..and some days there isn't time for anything else. I try to create pockets of time for myself to work or decompress...but those usually come with some interruptions to change a diaper or fix a snack. The key again is to be flexible. I have to be ok with not having the dishes done or to skip a blog post one day or call in reinforcements to get out and drive around alone for 20 minutes. Prioritizing and taking my pulse and the pulse of the house is something i have to reassess every day. Needs and wants change daily. It truly is juggling...and i drop quite a few balls (usually the house cleaning/organizing/washing my hair/ balls)
What did you decide to do with Phoebe's vaccinations?- Matt and I are still undecided. We're doing the research and weighing our options but we've come to two different conclusions...and are at a bit of an impasse. Luckily, her Dr. is ok with us waiting. And while i'm breastfeeding we feel like that is buying us some valuable time. (Since antibodies are passed along through the milk). I will say though that the Dr. Sears book has been a real help!
What happened to max's "dear baby" posts? - haha! they fizzled quick! I started to feel like a stage mom making him write those every week! he would be sad and wouldn't want to do it...and if i bribed him enough to sit and write they would become the wackiest letter you'd ever read. just nonsense and crude little boy humor. anyways, it was fun while it lasted. again...flexibility! haha.
Section 2- Relationships
Can you post wedding photos? Are you and Matt married?- Matt and I aren't legally married...although it's funny i forget that fact all the time! We are very much a team and committed to each other...a family! But we have let things grow in our relationship a little more organically than what is considered traditional. After getting divorced from Max's dad, i wasn't sure i would ever want to get legally married again. I believe in marriage wholeheartedly...what it symbolizes. But sitting in front of a judge and a stenographer and a lawyer....watching strangers decide what the fate of our marriage was when it was already decided in our hearts and with our God....changed the way i look at a legal marriage through the state. I could go on and on...but it's a pretty personal thing and very specific to my situation. Suffice it to say...maybe someday! haha. I'm pretty proud of where I am today, emotionally-speaking. But a ceremony in front of our friends and family would be pretty amazing...
How do you keep a good relationship between you and max's dad?- The only word i can use for this answer is love. Love for Max, love for each other...each other's family. Divorce didn't take away the amount of respect and love we had for each other. And while it wasn't the easiest to find our footing and there were times when we've been at odds and i never thought we'd get here, not being on the same team has never been an option. Max sees us as one collective family...and that's because we are! One big, crazy, unconventional family! On the more practical side of the question- there are things I do to make sure there is peace. Picking and choosing battles, deciding to trust, working together/being flexible, finding happiness and joy for each other's personal and professional lives. It's all very possible when you make a decision to love.
i'll pick back up next week with your questions about my professional life!
/1/ cattitude- matt's saturday tattoo references /2/ girl time /3/ foraging /4/ stars and stripes, branches and twigs
we had a quiet weekend...max wore army fatigues the entire time--we visited matt at work and foraged for color around the neighborhood. sunday was for an afternoon out with my mom and sisters, the evening for good conversation with friends.
(p.s. i can't thank you all enough for your kindness and uplifting words for our mimi dog. i'm so happy we got to share bits of her life with all of you here.)
happy monday to you all...and a even happier day to our veterans.
(i blow an especially grateful kiss to my dad and my grandpas)
the past few days have been really something lovely...time spent with family and being outside enjoying the change in the weather.
we spent saturday afternoon at the flea market. there were so many wonderful and funny things to look at and sift through...isles and isles of old things and new things and things re-purposed and given new life.
max found an old metal scooter at one of the first vendors we stopped at...so he scooted around the rest of the market on 2 wheels. we didn't buy much besides that...a wool blanket for me and a pipe holder for matt...but it was more fun to be there for the sight seeing!
and you all would be very proud of me...i haggled my blanket down by $5! although...matt paid $5 more than asking price for his pipe holder because he felt bad for the lady.
i guess we're not the greatest at bargain hunting just yet...
hoping you all had a wonderful weekend and happy monday!
happy happy friday!
today we have tomato soup and grilled cheese weather outside...cold and chilly and overcast.
with the first of fall a week away i'd say it's right on time. i read somewhere recently to add cinnamon toast to tomato soup to give it a bit of a warm spice. i'm not that brave, but did try adding ground cinnamon instead and it is pretty great! the smell is fall in a bowl...the color too.
i hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!
there is a flea market extravaganza this weekend with my name on it. and i tend not to skip things with "extravaganza" in the title...
p.s. thank you so much for such an amazing response on my closet sale! i couldn't believe how fast everything went...and just like the vacuum, my first thought was to hurry and raid my closet of every last great piece to put up so everyone could have something..haha.
i did manage to find some more good stuff that i'm happy to part with and pass along...i'll have them up sometime next week!
(and with fare warning this time so everyone has an equal chance to look around)
you guys are the best!
(and to those that did snag something, i have them wrapped and ready to ship out this weekend!)
1. saturday kitchen 2. "P" is for phoebe 3. baby hook /mama hook 4. lofty view 5. missing my max today 6. dusty record player 7. baby toes in the sun 8. joke teeth 9. sewing and mending during nap time 10. window sill 11. sweater weather 12. morning baby bath 13. itty bitty sweater weather
a quiet and still saturday house.
sweeping bare floors and rolling up sweater sleeves and kissing on chubby baby girl cheeks.
wishing you all a wonderful weekend!
late summer saturdays just might be my favorite...warm sun and breezy air, always something to do or get yourself into. today was for hiding out with ears of sweet corn and peppers and whoopie pies, lemonade and bottled soda. i had my two little bobbins in tow, making it all the nicer. we've been all over town today with no desire to go home...
i can hardly believe this is the last weekend before school starts wednesday. this summer has flown right by!
we have a few more warm weather tricks up our sleeves, county fairs and a quick trip north to the beach next weekend, but there is definitely a hurried feeling in the air.
hoping your weekend is going swell!
saturday morning matt and i found some time to sneak away together and hunt for fresh fruits and local honey (perfect for those seasonal allergies)
this time of year is the best for visiting all the little roadside shops...and makes running normal errands feel like a bit of a date. matt and i are taking what we can get these days!
if i weren't 9 months pregnant and craving hamburgers and deep fried anythings on a daily, i could live off of all of these local peaches and plums and pears!
hello there, friday!
this week has been one of lots of planned projects...procrastinating doing planned projects...keeping cool from the heat...reading with max by the fan at night...dinners out...and hiding in. i have some time alone this weekend...something i always look forward to but never know what to do with once it comes. we'll see what kind of mischief me and baby can get ourselves into...
i hope you had a fine week...and be so good to yourselves this weekend!
p.s. photo from instagram. you can follow along with me @katiespencilbox
matt and i went and registered for baby things today!
that poor guy...he's such a sensitive soul. i lost him in the baby thermometer isle and found him hiding somewhere between the pacifiers and bottle warmers. i think he was losing a bit of color. miniature things bring out the jimmy legs in him.
did i ever tell you about the time he couldn't quit pacing and swearing in front of the gal at the cloth diaper store?
oh how i get a real kick out of this side of him...the side that makes him break a sweat when i hold up baby tights!
have a wonderful wonderful weekend, sweet friends!